Friday, August 21, 2009

I don't feel 'good'

We all have those people we see, work with, and talk to on a daily basis. They are usually the last one to the meeting, or the over zealous friend that you hang with, or even yourself.

They are asked to participate in anything, and what happens? They don't want to. But instead of saying they don't want to, they quickly look for an excuse to get out of what ever it is you are asking them to do. The most commonly used line in the arsenal, "I don't feel good."

This line is especially useful in morning meetings where we have to be chipper and involved, but we are still shaking off the sleep, and this is usually around people you are totally comfortable with. Don't act like you have never used this line. You have. And you do it well.

What drives us to use this line? Is it because we truly don't feel well? If that were the case, then why didn't we phone the boss and tell them I don't feel well? Why did we even roll out of bed? If I truly felt like I couldn't participate at work, then I would just not go, phone the boss, and not go. If I felt I could not hang with you, then I wouldn't hang. If I truly didn't feel good, then I would not be doing, whatever it is I found myself doing that early in the morning.

Is it because we want to act like we have an active social calendar? The line would be, "I don't feel good..." then leave the phrase open with a small smile. It would lead me to believe that you went out last night and partied you ass off. If that were the case, then I would look at you with disdain. Wow, you knew you had to get up early this morning, and you went out and got wasted. Nice work. Real responsible. Oh wait, you want sympathy from me, so you can get out of something? I don't think so. Why are you wasting my time with your irresponsibility?

So as we sit back and observe this human condition, let's get off that clutch phrase, 'I don't feel good.' and call a spade a spade.

I'm lazy, I don't want to, call on someone else.

10 comments:

Vodka Logic said...

sounds good..... you first. xx

LiLu said...

Exactly. Or, if you're afraid to tell the truth, at least have the decency to make up an elaborate excuse so I half believe you.

Julie said...

Wow, someone's got your panties in a bunch this morning. I didn't do it.

Mena said...

You definitely hit the nail on the head! The "I don't feel good" essentially translates to "What can I say to make you leave me alone?"

Kelly Muys Wood said...

...but what happens when you really don't feel good then? :)

http://tearinguphouses.blogspot.com

~K said...

Oh my Mr. Bluebird of happiness. I'll bet there are people at work who just want to shoot you! :-) I can hear it now that Fucking Adam I am gonna take that mr. morning meeting bluebird of happiness and stick it right up his keester!

angie said...

so true. i've noticed a few people saying this lately, and i recognize that it was mostly due to their own choices, i.e. spreading themselves too thin. so i don't feel bad for them. people need to take responsibility for their choices, not make excuses.

Ekanthapadhikan said...

Very true, very true! That was an interesting read!

Jinxxy said...

AMEN! i just tell em, no, i don't want to go, that sounds lame.

if its work, i have to be on my deathbed to get out of it. and i work from home!

my faverite is "i'll call you later and let you know" and they don't call you for another week. i'm asking now because i need to now now. don't weenie out and avoid it altogether. we're adults. say no, i'll find someone else.

btw- i love your quarters!

Jareal said...

Absolutely true. Funny the same people will constantly want you to do them a favour.